Stop keeping up with the Joneses!

This is one of the longest topics I have ever written about.

Come to think of it a lot of parents want their children to be like the Joneses consciously or unconsciously. I am not saying that it is not good to emulate good examples. No, what I am saying is that your child does not have to study medicine because the Joneses' son is currently in science class and he plans to study medicine.

The following might likely be the reasons why most parents might want to keep
up with the Joneses:

(i)Inferiority Complex: The worse complex to deal with is inferiority complex. It is a form of complex that makes you feel inadequate until you do what others are doing. And the more you try to meet up the more frustrated and delusion you get.
This is a major reason why most people want to do this or that just to keep up with the Joneses.

(ii) Comparison Syndrome: The word of God says in 2Cor 10:12 and I quote 'For we dare
not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some
that commend themselves:but they measuring themselves by themselves,
and comparing themselves among themselves,are not wise'.
Simply put, do not compare your children with the Joneses
because they have their own divine destinies to fulfil.

(iii)False sense of belonging: Some parents just feel that they must belong to a particular 'class' and so their children must comply whether they like it or not.

There are many other reasons that time will fail me to list out here. But whatever your reasons are, I am sure it will not be good enough to deny your children of their individuality and the right of expression.

Your role as a parent is to guide these children along a Godly and purposeful path to fulfilling their divine destines in life and not to distort their destinies by believing that they just must be like the Joneses. By the way who are the Joneses? The dictionary defines the Joneses as one's neighbours, friends, business associates, etc.'.

Conclusively, keeping up with the Joneses has NEVER landed anybody in the
promise land but it sure has landed a lot where they never bargained for.

What is serious Parenting?

Hi, my name is Lola, am married to John and we are blessed with five children in thirteen years of marriage. I'll like to share with you abt serious parenting.

What is Serious Parenting?

Serious Parenting has to do with seriousness. When I say seriousness I mean seriousness. Let's start by taking a look at what the word "serious" means.
The word serious from the dictionary means "requiring thought, concentration, or application: a serious task. to be focused", . The opposite of the word serious is frivolous.

The next word we may want to consider is parenting? Parenting in my own opinion is the ability to carter for our children physically, spiritually, morally, financially, in short all round because we brought them into this world.

If we now look at serious parenting, we will see that is it that which is of importance, grave, critical, or sober calling and we cannot afford to take it for granted for the following reasons:
(1) Being a parent is a priviledge and not a right
(2) Believe it or not, we have to give an account to the creator one day concerning these gift(Children)
(3) Your input into their lives will either make or mare their lives/the society at large
(4) You have to look beyond just being called a mom or a dad
(5) Serious parenting must be total.

Do you know that if you train up a child the way to go, it is hard for him to depart from it when he grows up?
Do you also know that you have to balance up your act of parenting by being firm when you have to? Let your no be no, let your yes be yes.

When does parenting start?
Parenting starts as soon as you are pregnant. This is because you are carrying in your womb a living being that can feel, hear, respond e.t.c. In the light of this, placing your hands on the pregnancy and saying positive words over the baby in the womb is vey important.

In my next post, I'll be sharing a personal experience.